I am not a psychologist or a therapist, and what follows is one writer reading Jung and a bit of modern research, not advice.

For most of my twenties I looked outside. There was a script, the one a lot of us absorb without noticing, where by thirty you are supposed to have the markers. Money, the right lifestyle, the proof that you have arrived.

I chased a fair bit of it.

I got the motorbike I had told myself I wanted for years, for instance. And the unglamorous truth: within a few months the bike was just my bike. The wanting did most of the work, and the having did almost none.

For me, this is the half of Jung’s line about dreaming. Looking outside, you are forever projecting the good feeling onto the next thing, and the next thing keeps arriving and going flat.

The modern research rhymes with this in a way I find hard to ignore. In a 1993 study, Tim Kasser and Richard Ryan found that people who placed relatively high importance on financial success relative to goals like self-acceptance and community tended to report lower wellbeing. A later meta-analysis by Helga Dittmar and colleagues pulled decades of this work together and found a strong focus on money and possessions sitting alongside lower personal wellbeing.

None of that proves the new bike made me unhappy. It didn’t. But the wanting-then-flattening cycle is real, and I had lived it before I read a single study about it.

Looking inside, and what Jung actually meant

The line itself is older and gentler than the self-help version of it suggests. Jung wrote it in a letter dated 22 October 1916, to a patient. It appears on page 33 of the first volume of his collected letters. In the passage Jung tells her that her vision will only clear when she can look into her own heart, and that as long as she keeps projecting her psychology onto other people she will never reach peace with herself.

That is the part I think people miss. The inward turn here is not navel-gazing. It is the opposite. It is pulling back the projections you have flung onto the world and the people in it, and seeing more clearly because of it. Waking, in Jung’s sense, is just looking at what is actually there instead of the dream you laid over the top of it.

The pivot Jung named in the middle of a life

Jung had a bigger frame around all this, the idea he called individuation. Put simply, he thought a life has two movements. The first half is outward: you build an ego, a career, a place in the world. The second half turns inward, toward wholeness and meaning. The Jungian analyst Murray Stein describes it this way: “The first half of life is dedicated to ego development; the second half of life is aimed at integration of the whole psyche to the degree possible in a given human life.” In his account the first-half personality is roughly in place by the mid-thirties, before the inward turn begins. Stein is careful to add that full individuation is never quite reached, and it is worth holding onto that. Keep in mind also, that this is a Jungian framework, a way of making sense of a life, not a settled law of human development.

I bring it up because I seem to be living the pivot in real time, and it has caught me off guard. I am thirty-five. I used to be allergic to stability. Now I genuinely want a quiet, ordinary life. I want to be back into my fitness. I have a leather workbench I never get to enough. Mostly I want less, not more, which is not the wanting I grew up with at all. I am not claiming any of this as expertise. I am just a generalist who read some Jung and felt seen.

What the inward turn looks like in an unglamorous week

The honest version of looking inside is not dramatic. It is not a retreat in the mountains. For me it is wanting less, an ordinary week with nothing to photograph, a walk with no podcast in my ears. I am not a meditator. These are my quieter equivalents, and most of them are small enough to sound like nothing.

One thing I want to be straight about: the inward look can surface things that are heavier than an article like this is built for. Jung’s letter was, after all, written to a grieving woman in treatment, not to someone tidying up their hobbies.

If turning inward stirs up grief, or a low that won’t lift, a qualified counsellor or therapist is worth more than any line of philosophy, mine or Jung’s.

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Most days I leave my place around 1pm and go to lunch, usually alone. It is the seam in my working day, the bit between the morning at my desk and the afternoon spent moving between coffee shops.

For a long time I thought of it as unremarkable. Fuel, a break, nothing worth noticing. So I was a little thrown to read that this small thing, how you sit down to eat, can affect your wellbeing to a similar extent as your income or whether you have a job.

I am not a psychologist or a researcher, and what follows is one curious reader’s take on the findings, not advice about your life. The studies here are patterns across large groups of people, not rules about you, and the headline relationship is correlational, which matters more than it sounds.

The team who created the World Happiness Report 2025 using  noted that, “Sharing meals proves to be an exceptionally strong indicator of subjective wellbeing – on par with income and unemployment.”

What stuck with me is that it is the meal specifically, not just time around other humans. You can sit beside someone on a train for an hour and arrive a stranger. A meal is different. There is a shape to it, a beginning and an end, a reason to stay put and face each other for a while. The report found the largest jump in how people rated their lives sat between those who ate every meal alone and those who shared even one. Not the difference between one and seven. The difference between zero and one.

That detail reframes the whole thing for me. The bar is not some idealised long table of friends and candles. It is one meal, with one other person, where you are both actually there. 

The shared meal is easy to lose without ever deciding to lose it. The companion study, drawing on the American Time Use Survey, found Americans dining alone more and more, up by more than half since 2003, with younger people leading the trend. By 2023 roughly one in four Americans reported eating all of the previous day’s meals on their own. Kaats, one of the co-authors, said of the rise, “It’s just surprising to me that this increase would be so clear and so severe.”

I recognise the slide. My lunch out is a real fixture, but going out alone is not the same as eating with someone, and most days I eat alone. There is also the simple matter of having people to share a meal with in the first place. When I first moved to Vietnam there was a big group every week. Five years in, the number of friends I would actually sit down to eat with had shrunk to about five. The mobile expat life does that. People rotate out, and the table gets quieter without any single moment you could point to and call the change. The shared meal does not get cancelled. It just stops happening.

I do not want to turn this into something to optimise between calls. That would miss the point entirely. What I am taking is smaller and duller and probably more useful for being so. Eat lunch away from the screen. Eat it with another person when I can, and not always the same one. Treat the seam in the day as something worth protecting rather than the bit to compress when the morning runs long.

None of this needs a system. It needs me to text someone the night before. That is about the size of it.

If anything in this article feels distressing, a good counsellor will do more for you than anything I can write here. 

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Picture the version of your life where the work just stops. No inbox, no calendar, no one waiting on you for anything. Days that are yours from the moment you wake. Most of us carry some version of that fantasy around, and the assumption baked into it is simple: more free time would make us happier.

But is that actually true?

I am a curious generalist, not a psychologist, and what follows is reading and reflection on one study, not advice. The research here is observational at its core, drawn from particular groups of people at particular times, so it describes patterns across a population rather than rules for your specific life.

What the numbers actually say

In 2021, three researchers, Marissa Sharif at Wharton along with Cassie Mogilner Holmes and Hal Hershfield at UCLA Anderson, went looking for an answer in a lot of data. Their paper in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology drew on survey responses from 35,375 Americans, pulled from two large datasets, plus their own experiments.

What they found was not a straight line up. Well-being rose as people got more daily free time, but it leveled off after about two hours and started to decline after five. Plot it and you get an inverted U: a curve that climbs, flattens, then sags. The sweet spot sits somewhere in that two-to-five-hour band.

So the answer to the desert-island fantasy is more complicated than the fantasy wants it to be. As Mogilner Holmes put it, “To that initial question, shall we quit everything and go live on a desert island, the answer is no. We would not be any happier.”

Why the floor exists

The bottom end of the curve is the easy one to understand, because most of us have lived it. When the day is crammed and there is no slack in it, the small pleasures stop landing. You eat lunch standing up. You answer one more message instead of stepping outside. The researchers found that a dearth of discretionary hours in a day “results in greater stress and lower subjective well-being,” as Sharif described it.

This is the well-supported end of the finding. Too little time hurts, and the fix is modest. Two hours a day is roughly where the time-stress starts to ease, which is a long way short of quitting your job and moving to a beach.

Why the ceiling exists

The top end is the more surprising part, and it is where the study gets careful. Sharif’s own framing is that “while too little time is bad, having more time is not always better.” Note the “not always.” The drop at the high end was not the hours themselves doing the damage.

What the research suggests is doing the damage is something quieter. Past a certain point, Sharif argued, “a moderate amount of discretionary time leads people to be better off or happier compared to having a large amount of free time. And that’s because with a large amount of free time, people feel this lacking sense of productivity and purpose.”

The high-end drop was not fixed, though. When people spent the extra hours with others, or in ways they found meaningful, the dip softened. Mogilner Holmes offered the broad version of why: “We, as humans, don’t like to be idle.” Most people tend not to sit well with empty hours that have nothing pointing through them.

What I would actually do with a five-hour day

I tried the thought experiment on myself, honestly, and the result was instructive. If you handed me five free hours a day, I could fill some of them without thinking. Golf, for one. Time outdoors. The leatherwork I keep meaning to get back to and never quite reach.

But after that the answer goes blank, and the blank is the part that interested me. I genuinely do not know what I would do if I stopped working. Play golf, I guess. I like a week off for the golf as much as anyone, but I can feel how more than that starts to work against me rather than for me. I can see how people drift into feeling purposeless when the structure falls away. The curve the researchers drew is not abstract to me; it is the shape of my own honest answer.

The number that matters isn’t the hours

Perhaps the reframe worth carrying out of all this is that the figure doing the work here is not really the count of free hours. It is what fills them. Sharif’s plainest line on the whole thing is that “the way people spend their discretionary time matters a lot.”

The blankness in my own answer told me more than the parts I could fill. It says something about how thoroughly work has colonized the shape of an ordinary day, to the point where a few of us would struggle to recognize a day without it. That is not a tragedy. But it is worth noticing, because the fantasy of endless free time quietly assumes we would know what to do with it, and I am not sure I would.

For me, the more useful thing is not the two-to-five-hour band, tidy as it is. It is that I have some homework to do on the blank hours, long before I ever get handed them.

If this question lands heavier than it is interesting, if the idea of a day without work opens onto something closer to dread than relief, that is worth taking to a good therapist rather than sitting with alone.

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You hear the buzzer. Your team has won, and you are already living a little way into the future, certain this feeling will carry you through tomorrow and the day after. The win has set the weather for the week, and you can feel the glow of it stretching out ahead like a long warm afternoon.

Sound familiar?

I grew up around sport. Hurling, Gaelic football, rugby as a kid, and golf still, most weekends I can manage it. So I know that feeling from the inside, the way a result can seem, in the moment, like it genuinely matters to the shape of the days to come. What I did not know, until I started reading the psychology on this, is how badly we tend to misjudge how long that glow actually lasts.

I am a curious reader of this stuff, not a psychologist. What follows is one study and what I have taken from it, not advice about your own mind. The finding here comes from a particular group of people at a particular time, so treat it as a clue about how forecasting works, not a rule about you.

The clearest demonstration I have found is a 2000 study of American college football fans by Timothy Wilson, Thalia Wheatley, and colleagues, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.  Fans made their predictions first, in some cases forecasting how happy they would be after a win, and researchers then checked what their happiness actually did.

The gap between the two is what the study was after. As Wilson and Gilbert later put it in their review of this work, “college sports fans overestimated how happy they would be the day after their favorite team won a football game.” The fans predicted they would be above baseline right after the game and on each of the next days, but their level of happiness was no different just the day after the game.

The name the authors gave the mechanism is focalism. The idea is simple enough that I felt slightly caught out reading it. When we imagine one future event, we zoom in on it and quietly forget everything else that will also be filling those days. Wilson and Gilbert describe how “people tend to think of their lives in a vacuum, focusing on that occurrence alone.” The philosopher Wladyslaw Tatarkiewicz put the same thought more plainly decades earlier, in a line the authors quote: “In anticipating a coming event we have it alone in mind, and make no provision for other occurrences.”

The Sunday after the win still has the dishes in it, a deadline you forgot about, a friend who texts with their own bad news, the small ordinary traffic of being alive. None of it disappears because your team scored. The authors argue that “by neglecting to consider how much these other events will capture their attention and influence their emotions, people overestimate the impact of the focal event.” The win does not stop mattering; it simply has to share the day with everything else, and it loses that contest faster than we expect.

The part that stuck with me most is this. The researchers found a way to soften the error, and it was almost embarrassingly low-tech. Before some fans made their forecasts, they were asked to fill in a kind of prospective diary, estimating how many hours they would spend on a handful of ordinary upcoming activities: going to class, eating, studying, seeing friends. No lecture, no warning, just a nudge to picture the rest of the week. As Wilson and Gilbert report, “people in the diary condition predicted that the game would impact their happiness significantly less than did people in the control condition.”

The diary trick is one of the rare psychological tweaks that costs nothing and asks for no willpower. We don’t need to talk ourselves out of caring about the game — only to remember that Monday exists alongside it.

The more I sit with it, the less this feels like a story about football. We do the same with the holiday we are sure will fix everything, the promotion, the move, the argument we are dreading. Anticipated highs rarely lift us as long as we plan for them to, and anticipated lows often do not flatten us as long as we fear they will.

I am not sure there is a clean lesson in this. The small move I have taken from it is to try to let the rest of the week or month into the picture before I decide how a single thing is going to make me feel.

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A study I read recently has stuck with me. It found that the people who lean hardest on AI tools tend to score lowest on critical thinking, with the steepest gap among the young.

I use AI tools every day for parts of my own writing work, so this is not a doom blog about technology rotting our brains. It is more that I read the study, recognized something in my own habits, and wanted to think through what it actually says before deciding how worried to be.

I am not a psychologist or a cognitive scientist, and I am not credentialed in any of this. What follows is one writer reading the research and thinking aloud about it. The study at the center of this is observational, and a population-level pattern is not a verdict on you or on anyone in particular.

What the study actually found

The work comes from Michael Gerlich at SBS Swiss Business School, published in early 2025 in the journal Societies. He used a mixed-method design: a survey of 666  participants across a range of ages and education levels, plus 50 follow-up interviews to put some texture on the numbers.

The headline result is blunt. As Gerlich put it, “The findings reveal a strong negative correlation between frequent AI tool usage and critical thinking abilities, mediated by cognitive offloading.”

Before that sentence does too much work, the word that matters most is correlation. Gerlich is careful about this, and so should we be. He notes that “the study highlights correlations rather than direct causation, meaning that while AI usage and cognitive offloading are linked to reduced critical thinking, additional factors may also contribute to this relationship.”

The reverse direction is also possible: that people who already think less critically may simply reach for the tool more. The study cannot tell you which way the arrow points.

The cognitive offloading mechanism

Cognitive offloading is the habit of delegating a mental task to something outside your head, a calculator, a sticky note, a search bar, an AI. We have always done it. The question the study raises is what happens when the thing we offload to is good enough to do the whole job, not just hold the answer.

There is an experimental companion piece worth knowing about, though with heavier caveats. An MIT Media Lab study by Nataliya Kosmyna and colleagues had 54 people write essays in three conditions, using an AI assistant, a search engine, or nothing but their own heads, while measuring brain activity. The brain-only writers showed the strongest neural connectivity; the AI users the weakest, and they struggled to quote work they had just produced. The main sample is small, the follow-on crossover phase included only 18 participants. Treat it as a suggestive clue rather than proof. Even with those caveats, it points at the same intuition from a different angle: when the tool ends up doing most of the assembling, less of the assembling is being done by the writer.

The young show the sharpest effect

The age pattern is the part of the study that is most worrying. The youngest band, aged 17 to 25, used AI most and scored lowest on critical thinking, while those 46 and above used it least and scored highest. Higher education was protective across the board.

Gerlich’s reading of this is appropriately tentative, and I want to keep it that way. He suggests that “digital natives, who have grown up with AI-integrated technologies, might be more prone to cognitive offloading than older generations.” Note the hedges in his own sentence. The reading is softer than “young people are bad at thinking” — it is a researcher saying that people who never knew a world without these tools may lean on them more reflexively, simply because the tools were always there.

What to do with this

I don’t think the answer is to throw the tools away.

Gerlich himself lands on a balanced note: “AI tools are not inherently detrimental; rather, their impact depends on how they are used.” His own prescription, framed as his view rather than settled fact, is that “AI should complement cognitive engagement rather than replace it.”

That distinction is an important one. Whether AI extends my thinking or stands in for it has turned out to be the question that matters most in my own practice.

What I take from this is small and practical: notice which part of the task you are handing over. Outsourcing a lookup matters less than outsourcing the judgment about what the lookup means, and the second one is what I try to keep watch on.

None of this is a substitute for talking to someone qualified — a therapist or career counsellor, or a trusted person in your life — if the bigger questions here, about work, change, or where you stand, are weighing on you more than they are interesting you.

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